If your looking for love use your heart

[safeknight]

Max

I have been married twice so I dont know if I qualify to answer this, BUT I have to agree. Love is one thing Sexual attraction is another, its nice to have bot but it dosent always work out.

In general the women I date that I have an "animal" attraction to I wouldnt marry If my life depended on it even though (if I am going out with them) they feel the same as I do. Sex is great , sex is neccesary, but Sex dosent == Love

Now that said there of course has to be some attraction, at least It makes sense there should, Looking back on my dating life there was one girl that stood out althouh I was too young and dumb , She was a good catholic in every sense of the word, she wasnt goin to have sex till she got married, period. I knew this from the beggining and we dated almost 8 months I had more fun with her and felt closer to her than most anyone, but I respected her choice and never once tried to "get her in bed" I did however seek sex elsewhere, just happened to be her cousin (I didnt know that at the time) and funny thing was she "forgave me", said she understood , next time just not with anyone she knew or would ever meet, and never brought it up again, sad part was I was too ashamed to continue so I broke it off, we are still good friends but looking back was she the " one ?

I mean sex is good, fun, natural but would you really want to marry agirl you could get in the sack on the first date ?

Chris

[safeknight]

Max

safeknight,

1) Men do not think of sex all the time, because they do not think all the time!

2) Re.: "....BE A REAL MAN......"


What is a real man???

[wavetossed]

I think this is a great advantage of the Internet. It allows us to communicate with women without any sex or possibility of sex. This means that we can speak more honestly and more clearly about our lives, our hopes, and our desires for the future. It allows us to meet as souls first.

We are all dual creatures. The soul of a woman and the soul of a man is the same. At this level we are identical and we all want the same things, love, sharing, caring. But our souls live in animal bodies and if we do not take care of these animal bodies then it creates conflicts inside us and drives us crazy. So a healthy person must make sure that the animal part is fed, cuddled, kept warm, given exercise, just like a pet. But the animal part of a woman and a man are different and sex between them is necessary for the happiness of both.

The best sex is when the animal part is satisfied physically and when the soul part is satisfied spiritually. I think that when a relationship is established first on a spiritual/soul level, then a great sex life is guaranteed. So if this is what you really want, then the way to get there is to forget about sex for now.

Open your heart and communicate with a woman as directly and honestly as you can. If you are a match, you will know it. If not, be honest and tell her this and try again.