Why do women never go for the "nice guy"??

[iceman7311979]

I ask this question, why do women never go for the nice guy??

I am a nice guy, I always want to make everyone happy and never, never intentionally hurt anyone for any reason. So why can't I find a lady to love a nice guy??

Will someone tell me, please??
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As "Alice Cooper" if you can't ride the highs and lows of Rock and Roll, get out of the business. It is a cyclical think. Keep on doing what you are doing and things will tend to fall into place. Matt there are many people on tis website who have had bad luck or misfortune. Don't blame yourself!!! There was one guy yesterday who was thrown on some "deceit list" because one girl thought that he should have wrote to her exclusively. It cannot work that way. He had only met her. I could tell that he was hurt by that. It is called relationship survival. You, dued are in good company http://datingtalk.info/non-cgi/emoticons/cool.gif

[Vicky]

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[katya]

</span>[QUOTE= (iceman7311979 @ Nov. 02 2002,14:35)]I ask this question,

[iceman7311979]

Thank you Gabby, and vicky for your kind words. http://datingtalk.info/non-cgi/emoticons/biggrin.gif

To Katya -- I know it can be difficult to tell the good ones from the bad ones, but why stay when you find that they are not good ones.
I believe actions and attitude toward women speaks volumes about a man.
Although dispite my kindness most women pass me over for the 'Bad boy'.

Because nice guys are usually insecure. Most women want a man to act like a friggin' man. They want the romance and the lovey dovey stuff but in the end they want that controlling protectiveness that men offer. Most women want a man who is confident and will be emotionally strong when she is not. A lot of women want security and nice guys are usually emotional wimps. Guys that cry basically.

The biggest reason is most guys try to act like the nice guy and in turn many women have been jilted by so called nice guys so most women believe that when they see a guy who is supposedly nice then the skepticism of his sincerity comes in to question because everyone knows there is no such thing as a true nice guy, everyone has their moments of being a dick! No matter who you are man or woman. So when you act overly nice than the average man, you seem PHONY!

[Xutesute]

That is one of the biggest questions Iceman.

For one thing kindness is often mistaken for weakness. I have a lot of inner strength but I don't wear my heart on my sleeve, it takes me a while to open up. But I do treat other people the way I like to be treated and like you, I like to please others. So if girls see only the kind side you get perceived as wimpy even though that can be far from the truth.

Another thing is girls like to have guy friends and some people believe that a guy can't be just a friend to a girl, there's always a hidden agenda. So when a girl finds a truly friendly guy she wants to keep it that way.

IF one more girl tells me she just wants to be friends I'm going to punch her in the face. JUST KIDDING!

Don't change Ice, there is a shortage of nice guy's these days, your moment will come. Craig.

[Tom]

</span>[QUOTE= (Guest @ Nov. 15 2002,13:46)]Because nice guys are usually insecure.

[katya]

</span>[QUOTE= (iceman7311979 @ Nov. 03 2002,04:45)]I know it can be difficult to tell the good ones from the bad ones, but why stay when you find that they are not good ones.

[katya]

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Hi , Max!
You are right. Woman don

[katya]

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Hi!
And why you so don

[Xutesute]

Hi Katya.

I am blessed to have many friends. I know at least a dozen women who are friends but not even one lover (at the moment.) Every time I meet a girl I find attractive and get my hopes up about starting a relationship she becomes another friend and I go home once more and watch movies by myself. I'm human, I need some intimacy, the touch of a loved one in a way that a friend can't provide.

I have nothing against friends, I love the ones I have.

Craig.

[Isildur]

Hey all :-)

Do nice guys finish last? No. Definitely not. Theres a thin line between "nice" and "weak" that some people (often young people) confuse. The stereotypical "bad boy" has a very short shelf-life in serious relations with women. Put aside the bravado and desire for control, and what is left?

Do women want to feel their man can protect them? Absolutely. Do women also want to feel they can talk to their man, share with him? Yes. Does a man who treats his lady with kindness, love and respect seem weak to anyone? I would say any man who does anything else is a fool....

The measure of a man is not how the can "protectively control" his woman (borrowing from Max's post) but how responsible he is, how he can provide for his family, how he can comfort his loved ones in times of need. Weepy cowards cant do that. Neither can selfish, arrogant neandrathals.

Good luck to all :-)

[katya]

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Hi, Craig.
If you want , that girl will show you , that she like you , show it yourself !
May be , she like you very much , but you are making all , as friend make. And she understands that you need in her, only as a friend.

[katya]

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