What do Russian/CIS Women think about...

[Barracuda]

What do Russian/CIS Women think about...


What do Russian/CIS women think of men with disabilities? Since I am slightly disabled, physically, this subject means something to me. I was born with my birth defect and it has to do with my upper extremities. My disability is not genetic and cannot be passed to my offsprings so this should not be an issue. But here in America it seems that we judge each other by the way we look and not necessarly by our abilities.

I am more than capable than most men in all arenas of life. I can do anything I set my mind to and I am a proud person. This pride sometimes is misconstrude as arrogance or indifference but it is more independence than anything else. American women my age and younger just cannot see beyond my differences to learn the real me. I am in many respects far more mature than many in my own age group. In relationships with women I seem to do much better with women that are older than I. But this is not what I want for me because I am 34 years old and I realy do want to have my own family. It means very much for me to be able to enjoy watching children grow up and develop but my house is empty and lonely because I have none of my own.

But can the Russian/CIS woman accept my differences? I am a good person. I work hard and have the means to support a family. I am a capable lover. I am attentive and supportive of my relations. Can a Russian/CIS woman look beyond my surface and see the real man inside me? I have many doubts but I try to give every relation a chance. But as for our Russian/CIS ladies on this site I ask many questions and one that is important to me is should I tell the woman I am writing to early or later in our letters? Both of my friends Russian wives say I make too much of this and that I am worrying about things that matter little to a Russian woman if she is genuine in her feelings toward me.

I guess I worry to much. I am going to Kurgan in the spring with one pair of friends and Tanya, the wife, has had her friends there talk to others that I am to meet. I ask her to please tell them so that I do not dissapoint them when we meet. Maybe I am just scared and this all means nothing. Tanya has told me that I will not have any troubles finding a Russian girl because I am a good man and have done much with my life despite the differences I have. When Tanya's mother and sister were here this past summer they took several of my photos with them and Tanya's sister has been working part time at an agency translating letters so I have had a few letters from ladies she has communicated with. I've never been to Russia so I do not quite know what to expect.

Sorry for the rant..

Barracuda

[katya]

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if you go to meet anybody , and not important, what kind that girl will be - it is silly. you must know human - let a little , but you must.
looking, how many good girls looking for marriage! if you want marry - write to one, second ....
before you will find that , that will be that , that you want.
thinking about your problem smaller - when you love , there isn't problems ( you not see it ).

[Vicky]

Barracuda,
Katya's right, don't you worry. I won't say for Western women but Russians are well-known for their kindness, and that does not mean sympathy, though includes it. If you're capable of most things men should do and the disability won't be passed to children, there's no reason to think you'll be rejected. There're thousands of handsome freaks with no disabilities at all but a woman who loves looks into eyes and heart. Impress her with your personality, your way of thinking, let her notice your soul and hide away those nice barracuda teeth (unless you're praying for a golden fish for your beloved http://datingtalk.info/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif )

[Barracuda]

Thanks Vicky,

I guess I should explain the "Barracuda" name. its not because of my teeth but because I owned a 1971 Plymouth Barracuda that I've sold reciently, and I had a 1968 'Cuda in high school and I have a 1969 Barracuda now. I use the name on other web discussion boards like www.plainsmanscabin.com and at the Campfire forums http.griffinwbart.com/campfire/index.php. Both these sites are survival/gardening/preparations/homesteading informational sites that I frequent.

I have a kind of a funny story about when Tanya and Bill came over to visit my house a last year. Being a bachelor I'm kind of into a bunch of different things that most marred men don't have the time or energy for. Like the motorcycles, boats, camping, etc. When she was going to a school near my house she called and got directions to come over after class. So I frantically cleaned up the place. Picked up dirty clothes, made the bed, close doors to rooms, I had my Eureka Mountineer tent hanging on the banisters http://datingtalk.info/non-cgi/emoticons/tounge.gif so I had to fold it up and put it downstairs.

Anyway when they got there the first thing she did was to go
straight to the kitchen. First she checked out the sink and the dish washer, both were empty because I had just done dishes. Then she checked out the freezer and refridgerator both were well stocked with beef, chicken, pork products, cheese, frozen fruits, salad fixings, vegetables, gallons of homemade soups and chili, I love chili http://datingtalk.info/non-cgi/emoticons/biggrin.gif . She spent 20 minutes pulling stuff out and asking questions about it. What's in your chili? where did you get the vegetables? How long will this stay fresh?

Then she moved to looking in the cabinets in the kitchen, inspecting dishes, pots, pans, glasses, the selection of coffees and teas. She looked in the oven checking out baking pans and tins. A few more questions and she opened the door to my pantry. I think I know how "Holy Sh!t" is spoken in Russian now. Anyway she asked about how much food there was stored there and for me and one other adult there is generally enough food for 8-10 months not including what is normally frozen or canned from my garden. With the garden and one good growing season it can easily be stretched to 2 years for two adults, two children, and one dog.

She also noticed all the lamp oil under the kitchen sink along with gallons of cleaning liquids. Then she asked about oil lamps. I keep at least two in every room in the house and some rooms have more like the living room, kitchen, and master bedroom. Every time she saw something different she asked Bill, "Why do we not have this?" or "How much does this cost?" She asked about my homemade oil lamps that are used to replace pillar candles too. At first all this stuff seemed to confuse her. Tanya had not been here all that long at the time and she admitted that America was not what others had told her. But she liked it here ok and Bill was good to her and her son.

She asked me why I had all this stuff if America was the land of plenty why not buy things as I needed them. My answer was simply that the future was never certain and that things can change quickly. I feel that if I were suddenly out of work or unable to go to the stores because of bad weather or some natural disaster like the winter here in Georgia where everything closes down when we get ice and snow then I would be able to provide for the needs of my family without having to ask others to help. And if one of my neighbors fell on hard times I could lend a helping hand if they needed it. I guess the whole point is I like to be prepared and to be able to support my future family comfortably. Just like in Russia things can and often change and it is not always for the best.

Barracuda

[Bprdw]

I am new to this dating internationally, thing. I really don't know what to expect. I am kinda scared of this stuff. You know computers, web, and all. I guess I did this because I am a little lonely. I just joined, and won't take up anymore of your time. But I must say, I like the say, "there are many handsome freaks in this world". Good one to whoever said it!!! Barracuda, I think that you will do just fine. I have a friend who has a disability and he married a girl from Kherson Ukraine. She is so happy here in Canada. They live in Edmonton and she has Canadian friends that speak Ukrainian. There are so mnay Cultural Centres in this city. She feels right at home!!!! You'll be fine!!! Sorry, I hope I did not interupt anyone's train of thought. Besides, I had a 74 CUDA when I was in High school. Nice car!!! Bye http://datingtalk.info/non-cgi/emoticons/biggrin.gif

[Vicky]

Bprdw,
welcome to the group http://datingtalk.info/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif Even if you don't get any advice here, you won't feel lonely at times. Any experience or thought you might want to share with us will be of value, as that will be a piece of communication - thing that brings people together and may give grounds for friendship if not love.