Do's and dont's of the first date

[Vicky]

When communicating with people you should take a special attention at the impression you're making at him/her when you first meet. Russian proverb is saying that a person is first judged by his/her appearance ("welcomed according to his clothes") and only after that by anything else ("seen off according to his brains"). Whether this is objective or not, is not the issue, because first impression does play a very important role, and none of us would like to meet anyone and then realize that the second thought of a date is a thought of regret. There must be some do's and dont's of how to make that first impression favourable. It would be of help if we try to share our thoughts about this, of what those do's and dont's are - both for men and women. I guess guys would rather speak of what they expect and don't expect of girls, and girls will probably like to share their vision of men's behavior, though it might be just the other way. I myself know the best rule for the first date that is "be yourself", but I guess it's not the only one. I would like to know more, so as not to found myself in a situation I was once in, when I first met a guy and was not sure whether he was expecting me to act the way I did, because I never got an answer from him to a very simple question of mine - what did you think when you first saw me http://datingtalk.info/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif

Actually I don't agree with be yourself on a first date. Sometimes too much of "yourself" can overwhelm people in one meeting. I mean think of the number of good friends that you have that say to you now, "ya and to think I couldn't stand you when we first met". That happens a lot to people. So not all first impressions are the most important.

Sometimes it is better to reveal bits and pieces of your personality over the course of time so people can get used to your quirks, idiosyncrisies and general behaviour. Telling all your best jokes in one night doesn't make you a comedian. The bottom line is when you meet someone you're either going to get along or your not.

If you have to ask someone, "what did you think of me when you first saw me", then I think you already know the answer, you're just looking for some kind of reassurance or justification to either wanting to get a compliment or not accepting the truth because you know the person can't stand you and you're challenging them basically to say they couldn't stand you.

[Vicky]

Actually when I was asking "what did you think of me when you first saw me" I was trying to elicit a smile from that friend and something like "I hated you immediately after I saw you" http://datingtalk.info/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif

[Xutesute]

I have to agree Max. I have kind of an off-beat type of humor and if I expose someone I just met to the full brunt of it I can be perceived as weird. But if I knew that person for six months the same comment would probably make her laugh her ass off.
I think instead of be yourself, don't be phoney may be a better way to put it.

Women generally like the man to be decisive so it's a good idea to find out what she likes and have at least the first evening planned. From there you can gauge what kind of input she needs to contribute. A flower or two never hurts either. Craig.

[Jon]

Vicky,

1.) Never bring food on the first date. Unless you intend to share it later.

2.) Never show a picture of the X.

3.) Never suggest bring a friend along.

4.) Leave your mom at home.

5.) Brush your teeth.

6.) Wear clean underwear (right Craig) just in case there's an accident and you have to be rushed to the hospital.

7.) Insist the other person brush their teeth (see #5).

8.) Never kiss on the first date because the may forget to do # 5. Yuck!

9.) Always pay your share of the bill. That's dutch for us in Holland. http://datingtalk.info/non-cgi/emoticons/cool.gif

10.) Get their name correct. Its a pain when you call them be someone else's name. Kinda of ensures that you won't have to worry about #5 and #7.

Hopes this helps with the rookies on the board. I always forget one of the numbers...keeps them on their toes.

Jon

[Barracuda]

That's a good list Jon. I also have a strange sense of humor and I also admit I am a bit too intense to take at full strenth. I need to be diluted over time and taken with a grain of salt and a shot of Vodka. http://datingtalk.info/non-cgi/emoticons/tounge.gif Since I am a "mysterious" and "exciting" person it is better to ease the woman into my world. http://datingtalk.info/non-cgi/emoticons/biggrin.gif

Barracuda

[katya]

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Jon http://datingtalk.info/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif
Little repairing. Not * pay your share of the bill* but * try to pay your share of the bill*
I don

[Jon]

</span>[quote=Jon,Nov. 15 2002,17:48]
Jon http://datingtalk.info/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif
Little repairing.

[katya]

</span>[QUOTE= (Jon @ Nov. 16 2002,10:31)]Dear Katya,

I would never ask you to pay for food.

[Vicky]

Katya,
you should try it once - some nice red wine plus candles on the table, tender look in the eyes of your visavi - what is more romantic http://datingtalk.info/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif

[Jon]

</span>[QUOTE= (katya @ Nov. 16 2002,16:07)]</span>[QUOTE= (Jon @ Nov. 16 2002,10:31)]Dear Katya,

I would never ask you to pay for food.